Recently I heard the gospel summed up in this: There is a Father who was separated from His most beloved children (by sin). He is heartbroken and will stop at nothing to get His children back with Him! Through Faith in Jesus, the son of God, we are restored and redeemed back into the right relationship with the Father. In other words, really the whole gospel is about the Father! Yes we worship Jesus and thank Him for the sacrifice of the cross. I mean, without the cross it wouldn't be possible to be restored to our Father. But Jesus says He ONLY did what He saw the Father doing and what the Father had asked Him to do, including the cross. The bible also says that Jesus was the exact representation of the Father. Jesus says if you have seen Him then you have seen the Father. I heard an insight on this recently that elaborated on some reasons as to Why Jesus. Why didn't the Father send Himself or send a more militant commander type King that the Jews were looking for. But the Father couldn't do that because He was not trying to establish Jesus as King yet, He was trying to reconcile His children to Himself!
After the fall we all became Orphans. The definition of an orphan is someone who has been deprived of both parents, or who has lost both parents. When sin came into the world we lost our Father. Its not that God abandoned us, but it is that the sin brought separation that forever changed the way we relate to Him as daddy. The chief orphan of all time is Satan. When he revolted against God and was cast out of Heaven Satan became an orphan. And he wants nothing more then for God's children, the Father's beloved sons and daughters, to be separated from their Father and live as orphans as well! I believe this was a major motivation, if not the chief goal, of why Satan's temptations on Adam and Eve were so good and so tempting. Adam and Eve loved the Father. They were living in unveiled face to face awesomeness EVERYDAY! They were affirmed and loved by their Father and literally walked with Him in the garden of Eden. When Satan offered to Eve that she could be like God if she ate the apple it probably seemed so wonderful to her because of how much she LOVED her Father. We cannot understand the purity that was in her heart before the fall because we are all tainted by sin. I have often read that story and thought that Eve was feeling mischievous or a little rebellious and thats what made her do it. But I don't believe that was the case at all. [I'll save all my thoughts about the moment of the fall for another day :) ] I believe that Eve's heart was full with love and adoration for her Father and Satan used that to twist and manipulate things that the Father had told them to get her to do it.
So the fall happens and the orphan spirit that Satan operates under is now passed to mankind. Stop and ask yourselves these questions:
Have you ever said or thought, "There's no free lunch?" "If I don't take care of myself then no one else will." "No one is looking out for me?" "If I don't make a name for myself then it will never happen." or "I'm the only one who cares if I succeed or fail."
This is the voice of the orphan. An orphan doesn't have anyone to provide a meal for them so they have to rely on themselves if they want to eat. An orphan has to work hard to make a penny. An orphan has to comfort himself. I have heard countless stories about small orphan children in places like Russia that rock back and forth on their own trying to comfort themselves. Some orphanages have said that the babies and toddlers stop crying when they want something because they have learned that no one is going to respond to their cries! The plight of an orphan is terrible!
But on the contrary, a son with loving parents never wonders where dinner is going to come from. A son never wonders where the money is going to come from for a winter coat or shoes. A son relies and trusts in his parents to care for his physical, emotion, and spiritual needs.
We are all orphans until we come into our sonship as sons and daughters of the Father! I see hundreds of people around me who are believers in Jesus and are still scraping around like orphans! Just coming to faith in Jesus unfortunately doesn't mean that you will come under the Father and rid yourself of the orphan mentality. But the reason you are coming to Faith in Jesus IS to be RECONCILED BACK TO THE FATHER!
God knew that the orphan mentality had riddled His children and He knew if He sent a father-figure type person the Jews would not have received Him. People who have had a hard relationship with their dads often have a really hard time with other father figures or older men in authority over them. The response can be anything from desperately wanting that man to see you and become a father to you, only to be hurt tremendously when that man doesn't meet your expectations, all the way to absolute rejection of anything they would say with a hook line like "YOUR NOT MY FATHER!" The Father knew that He needed to send Jesus as a brother figure to point people back to the Father. That was His whole assignment. I can almost see what it must have been like in Heaven. I see the Father broken hearted over losing His children. I see the Father so hurt by His children refusing to let Him be Daddy anymore. I see Jesus looking at the Father and saying, "I have an idea! I'll go and I'll point them back to you!" And I see the Father anguishing over having to lose yet another Son but knowing this is the absolute only way to get His kids back.
And so Jesus comes to Earth and people begin to love and worship Him. Then He begins to say things like, "If you've seen me, you've seen the Father" and "I only do what I see the Father doing" and I see the Jews beginning to question....If this is true, then the Father must be magnificent! And then Jesus tells the story of the Prodigal son and continues to point and lead people back to the Father.
Jesus says in John 14:6 that no one comes to the Father except through Jesus. One of Jesus' responsibilities is to give people a revelation of the Father. No one can get a revelation of the Father without Jesus deciding to give it...and of course He will give that revelation to ANYONE who wants it.
If you have found yourself asking or saying the orphan mentality thoughts its time to come to the Father and let Him do what He does best. Let the Father speak His love and affirmation over you. Let Him restore you back to your place as son or daughter. Let Him heal you of the affects of the orphan spirit. As sons and daughters of God it is not our destiny to scrounge around and control things and try to make things happen for ourselves! Your destiny is to REST in your relationship with your Father knowing with absolute trust that He has your BEST INTEREST in mind and He is preparing for you EVERYTHING you need!
If you are wanting this touch from the Father, start by praying this prayer:
"Jesus! I want to receive a revelation of the Father! I need to feel my Heavenly Father's love and affirmation for me. Remove me from the clutch of the orphan spirit and restore me to sonship with the Father. Redeem me back to the heart of the one who loves me most. To my Father who made me and loves me." And now take a moment and ask God to speak His Fatherly love over you. Just quiet your heart and open your ears and you will hear Him speak.
I know I am barely scratching the surface of all the our Father is and wants to do in and through you. But my prayer for you is that you will find yourself falling more and more in love with the Father and coming into more and more rest in Him. I have a very good friend who had an interesting home life growing up. I wouldn't go so far as to say it was really abusive, but he had a very withdrawn father and a lot of hostility in his environment. When I met him and heard his story I couldn't believe how he seemed to be so untouched by some of the trauma that had occurred in his household. I know a LOT of people with a similar home life to him who had and have a lot on woundings that keep them from being able to receive the Father's love. One day I just had to ask him how he had made it through all these years without major woundings. His response shocked me. He said, "Well, when I was in about 8th grade I was really upset at how withdrawn my dad was and I was hurting in my heart a lot. Then I asked God to help me get through it." He said, "The Lord spoke to me and said, if you will forgive your dad for his failures and let Me be your Father I will teach you everything you need to know." And that is what my friend did. And every day since 8th grade my friend gets up and spends time with God and spends time with his Father. And you would think He had the absolute best parents in the world by the things he knows and the freedom he has.
The Father is waiting for you today. No matter if you have a great dad or a terrible one, the Father is ready for you.